Dear Pastor,
I am a 24-year-old woman who has been living with my girlfriend for over a year now. My life has surpassed a lot of adjustments and I am trying to push ahead now.
Before I got involved with this young lady, I was having an affair with her ex-girlfriend. I intentionally cheated on her with my present girlfriend. I developed a new-found love for this person and within months I was deeply in love.
At times my ex would call my girlfriend trying to win her back and at the same time tactfully performing the same act on me. I was shocked to hear that they slept with each other while we were together. To be frank, I have gotten over her but my girlfriend apparently has not.
Even though I did my ex wrong, I really don't regret getting involved. My ex has been with at least three partners within a short span of time and I am not counting those one-night stands. Yet, I am still focused and have not left my relationship to satisfy any sexual appetite.
Anyway, I would love to enjoy the moments when my girlfriend can openly trust me but I guess I am asking for too much at this moment. Am I?
Horrific break-up
My girlfriend's break up with her ex was quite horrifying. This ex of mine has now become a blooming celebrity because of her deceiving abilities, lying tongue and dishonest ways. Now she is the talk of the town. She has shocked the world because she was this angelic, quiet, renowned Christian, and truthful goddess. She has redefined the word 'player' but her small IQ would not allow her to understand such demeaning thoughts.
She needs guidance, moreover a mentor, who can help her walk a straight path. The irony to all this is she is a baptized Christian who attends church every Sunday but goes to clubs every Saturday night, arrives home drunk and living a promiscuous life with someone of the same sex.
I think she is confused, gullible, shallow-minded, easily lured and deceitful. She wants me and my girlfriend to fall apart. She needs help. Up to this day she has not given herself enough room to recover from any downfall that may have occurred.
Even though we are not together, I still wish her the best because she is young and naive. She has no true friends because they are so stifled in their hypocrisy, they eventually make bad decisions for her. She, indeed, has affected a lot of lives and that is why I seized the initiative to write to you so that you can help her make some changes in her life every day. Thoughts of wisdom is just needed in everyone's life. It is how we embrace it.
S.P.
Dear S.P.,
I do not know how you could be so bold to write and condemn your ex-lesbian lover and at the same time try to give her advice. You are a lesbian; you are living with a lesbian, and the girl you are condemning is a lesbian.
You are proud of what you are doing. You are saying things about her because both of you are no longer lovers. There was a time when lesbians were ashamed to let anybody know that they were lesbians. Today, you all are openly declaring to the world that you are lesbians, and not only so, you are cursing those persons who do not support your lifestyle.
The shame has gone from you and your friend. Let me state this clearly. Anyone who is willing to change this type of life style can get help. You can't help your friend. It is like 'pot cursing kettle'. You are quick to point out that this girl is a professing Christian. If that is true, it is most unfortunate that she has allowed herself to be carried away by such sinful practice. I pray that God will deliver her.
I hope also that one day you may come to realize that it is abnormal for a woman to make love to another woman and that you will seek professional help.
Pastor.
