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I do not trust my husband

Dear Pastor,

God bless you and keep up the good work. I have been married for nine years but my husband is a pain in the butt. I always trusted him until he went on a vacation with his mom and dad.

For two days, he did not call me. I thought that was very strange, so I called him. When I did, I found out that he did not spend the night in his hotel room, and that he spent it at the house of a woman whom he met on the trip.

Ever since that I cannot trust him. It has been two years. He thinks that I should get over it, but I don't think I can. I am awaiting your advice. God bless you.

S.B., Bermuda

Dear S.B.,

Your husband is naive. He fails to understand that it will not be easy for you to dismiss or forget his infidelity. It may take you a very long time to put what he has done behind you, and you may never fully trust him again. Both of you need to see a family counsellor. It is unwise to constantly remind him of the matter.

Nevertheless, counseling will help. So, make an appointment to see a counsellor as soon as possible.

Pastor