Tell Me Pastor

What a Ras!

DEAR PASTOR,

I have two sons with a "roots-man" from Kingston. I have known him for 18 years. I thought that he was going to introduce me to his lifestyle of one love and release me from the chains of Babylon. I wish not to say anything to disrespect your fellow countrymen so I'll just say that he has been less than "roots" or"Ras."

He is now separating our youths that are three and one years old from me because I don't want to see him intimately anymore. I showed him that I wish not to interfere with the union of father and son and I have worked willingly to encourage him with his youths. Now that I wish not to see him personally but only as a tutor of our youths, he's doing the opposite to me. He has our three- year old son convinced that he has to come to my residence. He has always created some situations that I just couldn't imagine he would do. I can't get over that.

For the love of Jah, speak to me through word and guidance from the most high on what to do. I pray, meditate and continue to keep moving forward.

K. J.,

Dear K.J,

You are very disappointed with this man. The relationship did not go well and now that you have left him, he is bringing on the pressure on you by giving your older son the impression that he has to come to your home. You know that he can see his kids and spend time with them, but that does not necessarily mean that he has to be at your house.

You need not be afraid to tell your older son that his daddy and you are no more intimate, that both of you do not live as husband and wife anymore; therefore, you cannot welcome him or entertain him at your house. Stand firm. Don't be "wishy-washy" on this matter. If Ras fails to cooperate with you, settle the matter of visitor's rights in court. And when you get to court, just speak the truth. The judge will understand and put the guidelines down.

Pastor