Commentary

Purr of the 'cheetah'

" Always believe that you could understand

'Cause we had so much of these

conversations

If I went out with another woman

That would be giving justification ...

And I am sure this time that I am innocent

Since you insist you get your heart's content

But make sure you can stand the

consequence"

Taken from ­ My Way or the Highway, Tony Rebel featuring Diana King. When Tony Rebel sang this song along with Diana King, he was pleading his case to a woman who thought he was cheating although he had, as we would say, 'put dung dem ting deh'.

Accused

When I heard that song, it hit me that every time we men do something contrary to what a woman wants, we are often accused of having another woman, even if we have burnt the bridge of infidelity behind us.

Women reading this will say that it is because we are a devious bunch why we will forever fall low on the list of people to trust. But, I'm still puzzled. Why is it that every time a man comes home late at nights, does not call every night, decides to pass up dinner for once, denies a woman sexual pleasure or insists that no one answers his phone but him, it always comes back to another woman?

By now, almost every man reading this will be agreeing with me or adding more to the list of things that have become the 'other woman' in their relationships.

I have already said that some men are deceitful and scheming but what about when we are innocent of the charges? What about when we have decided to turn over a new leaf? We have no more girls on the side no more long alcoholic binges with the boys where we flirted with every woman that passed our way.

You know that period when we as men have decided to devote all our time to the love our lives? (it can happen). Does it still mean we are cheating when the boss assigns you more work one minute before you run out of office to catch the bus so you end up coming home two hours later than normal? You see, it's just not fair to us as men when we are faithful and we go home to accusations.

Trust

Strangely, when they (women) pass up a date, don't answer their phones, come home late and deny us men sexual pleasure, the last thing some of us think about is another man. Even when she does have someone on the side, it is the last thing most of us think about.

Maybe it is because we trust them a lot why we often give them the benefit of the doubt. But, you see we as men must be blamed. We are the ones who gave our women the ammunition to fire at us.

We cheat and leave evidence behind and then expect to be trusted at a later date when the situation changes and we finally start to behave ourselves.

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Why is it that every time a man comes home late at nights, does not call every night, decides to pass up dinner for once, denies a woman sexual pleasure or insists that no one answers his phone but him, it always comes back to another woman?