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Conscience bites cheating wife

Dear Pastor,

I have been married for two years. My husband lives in Jamaica and I live in the U.S. I love him very much but I have cheated on him twice since we have been married.

I don't know what to do. I know he loves me, but I have been having a difficult time coping with myself. I want to tell him but I don't know if he will leave me.

Should I tell my husband that I have been unfaithful to him?

A., USA

Dear A,

Your husband may or may not leave you. However, if you were to tell him and he sticks around, he may raise the matter every time you have a disagreement and he may not trust you anymore.

Some men have not been able to cope very well with cheating wives, after the wives have told them that they have gone to bed with other men.

I cannot really encourage you to tell your husband what you have done. What I can tell you is to talk to God on the matter and to end the relationship that you are having with the other man. I will also suggest that you go to see a family counsel who would help you to deal with yourself.

Having said the above, I must inform you that many people will not agree with the stand that I have taken. But I think that I am in a position to say that having had many years of experience counselling married couples who have cheated, and have suffered emotionally and psychologically as a result.

Pastor