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Husband breaking my heart

Dear Pastor

I found out recently that my husband is having an affair because he said I am not showing him any love and affection. He told me that the woman he's cheating with said she is pregnant for him. We have been married for four years and have lived together for five years. I really and truly love my husband. I don't want us to break up because of this affair.

He is still seeing this woman. He is 55 and I am 39 going into 40 very soon. The other woman is 42 going into 43.

If my husband ever decided one day that he will leave me for this woman, I would do something very wicked to one of them. I really mean it. We are coming from very far.

Please tell me what to do. I can't concentrate. We are always at each other's throat because of this woman. She doesn't have any permanent papers to stay in the country. She would call my phone and tell me all sorts of things, and when I tell my husband he thinks I am the one telling lies.

He puts so much faith and trust into this woman who is a fraud. Sometimes I just feel like giving up and let him go to that woman. But, there is something that is telling me not to.

Please advise me on what you think I should do. This whole thing is stressing me out.

A.B., United Kingdom.

Dear A.B.,

In the first place, I want to encourage you to stay with your husband. I know that you are frustrated, and this woman is doing everything in her power to get you to leave him so that she would take your place totally. I want to tell you that you should always remind your husband that you are his wife and that you expect him to treat you with respect and that he should tell this woman not to call the house anymore. You should also change your telephone number if she calls again.

Your husband has made a very big mistake, and he's going to pay dearly for his indiscretion. See to it that he supports his child, but have nothing to do with the woman. You and your husband should go for counselling. If he does not want to go, I would encourage you to go so as to know how to cope with the situation.

Don't allow the devil to fool you, by telling you to try to hurt your husband or the woman, should he decide to leave you. You will survive without him even if he leaves you. God will see you through. My prayers are with you.

Pastor.