Tell Me Pastor

Not an easy feat

Dear Pastor,

I am a twenty-one year old guy and I want your advice. Is anything wrong with me if I find it hard to ejaculate while having sex? By that I mean it always takes me hours to ejaculate, or most times not at all. I have no erectile dysfunctions and I do not feel any pain.

However, when I am having sex with my girl or past relations it has been my personal problem for the simple fact that I would like my ladies to know that the pleasure is or was mutual.

T.W., Chicago, USA

Dear T. W.

You should have sessions with a sex therapist because I cannot intelligently respond to your query, unless I know more. Some men do not ejaculate for a long time during the sexual act because of the type of condoms they use.

There are some condoms that deaden the nerve ends of the penis and they enable men to have sex for a long time without ejaculating. I can name some of these condoms, but doing so would only give free advertising to the makers and distributors of these brands.

Knowledgeable women do not allow their men to use them. Perhaps you might be overdoing a good thing. You may be having sex so often that your body does not have enough time to rest.

A woman may experience multiple orgasms in one sexual act, but rarely can a man experience multiple ejaculations. God has made a woman to be able to have multiple orgasms, and foolish men seem to believe that they can cope with them by drinking concoctions to go up to the challenge.

My friend, call a sex therapist and have sessions with him or her. I beg you, stop wasting your precious seed. Settle down and you will enjoy a better life.

Pastor