Tell Me Pastor

Wifey, tek 'im back!

Dear Pastor,

I am seeing this married man for some time now. His wife found out about it and threw out his clothes. He is now living at my house. She has a child for him and they still talk to each other. But, every time I tell him to go back to his wife he says he is not going back because it has been a long time he wanted to leave. She even called the police to put him out. Now she is saying she made a mistake.

What should I do with this man? Please give me your fatherly advice. Take care and God Bless.

J.B.,

USA

Dear J. B.,

You wanted this man when he was living with his wife. His wife found out about you and threw him out. You took him in. Perhaps you didn't know that it was an awesome responsibility you took upon yourself. When you had a visiting relationship, you didn't have to take care of him. He came by, did his thing and left. You found it easier to deal with that.

Man a yard

Now he is 'man a yard' and you can't cope. In addition to that, his wife wants him back. So why can't you throw him out?

I know you don't want this man in your house. If you wanted him, you would ignore the plea of his wife. Of course he is talking nonsense when he told you he wanted to leave a long time ago. He too made a mistake by leaving her and you should not encourage him to stay at your house. Give him the boot.

Pastor