DEAR PASTOR,
I have a problem, and I need your help. My husband and I have been together for over ten years and we have been married for four years now. From that time until now, whenever we make love, I have never had an orgasm. I think that whenever two people make love, each person should have fun. Please advise.
D.G., Turks & Caicos
Dear D.G.,
It could be that you are non-orgasmic. There are some women in the world who are like that, but they are in the minority.
Long foreplay
On the other hand, your husband may need to understand that to have you experience orgasm, both of you ought to engage in long foreplay and that he should know where to touch and to stimulate you.
Some men are too anxious to satisfy themselves and not very concerned about their wives. They are not lovers, they are pushers.
They don't take time for romance. Women who find it difficult to experience orgasm must be manually stimulated and her husband should bear in mind that the position during the sexual act is very important.
Perhaps you should insist that your husband and you go for counselling because you are missing out on what some women call 'ecstasy'. It is the height of the sexual act.
Pastor
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