Dear Pastor,
I am a young woman living in Jamaica. I am with this guy who only wants to have sex with me. He has a very big penis and all he wants to do is put it up my anus. Sometimes I can't even use the bathroom. I don't know what to do. I love him but I can't take it anymore. I don't think he is gay. I think it is the cable that he watches all the time. I really don't know if I should continue this relationship at all. Whenever he has vaginal sex with me, he doesn't seem to enjoy it as much as when he sticks it up there.
Pastor, please tell me what to do.
R.J., St. James, Jamaica
Dear R. J.,
Why have you continued to allow this man to have anal sex with you?
The purpose of the anus is not for sex. How could you love a man who enjoys anal sex? Do you know that serious damage can be done to you? In fact, some women have had to have surgery after having anal sex.
The anus is not as sturdy as the vagina and does not heal as easily. Anal sex is not clean because the anus is never totally clean.
Even if your boyfriend sees others practising anal sex on cable it is no reason why he should practise it with you. You have discovered that this man does not like vaginal sex, so why are you tolerating him? If you love yourself, you would run this man.
Pastor
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