DEAR PASTOR,
I am a 26-year-old woman with a big problem; I am in love with two men. I have been with the father of my children for nine years. I went to Jamaica and met a guy. I was pulled to him. This was the only time something like this has ever happened to me in Jamaica. I think maybe it's because my children's father had a child with another woman.
This guy in Jamaica made me feel stuff I never felt before. I have strong feelings for him. I went to Jamaica for a month and during the last week of my visit, I found out he has a woman. I was so upset because for the entire month he spent every moment with me.
I had no free time because he was always with me. I returned home and we continued calling each other, until his woman found out. She and I got into a confrontation on the phone. I stopped calling the guy in Jamaica, but every night I go to bed, I think about him and a life we could have. I went back to Jamaica and we picked up where we left off. I love him and he says he loves me too, but we are both with other people who we don't want to hurt.
Pastor, can you please help me. I don't know what to do. All I think about is this guy in Jamaica. My children's father and I fight all the time, but I know he loves me and I love him, but we can't be together. Neither of us wants to leave because of the kids.
A. E., New York, USA
Dear A. E.,
Now that you have this man you are finding faults with your children's father. I am sure your children's father is not a saint, but if both of you were determined to make your relationship work, it is likely that it would work. What you need to do is to drop this Jamaican man right now. He fooled you before and he is likely to fool you again. Let him stay with the woman with whom he is with. And you and your man try to go for counselling and patch up the relationship. You may not like what I have said but I have spoken my mind.
Pastor
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