DEAR PASTOR,
I am an American citizen whom has been visiting Jamaica for over 10 years. On my first visit, I met a man whom I married last year. We retained our relationship on and off all these years. The only problem we had was the mother of his kids. He has always seemed to be intimidated by her. So we talked about this situation before we decided to get married.
He assured me that there would be no problems with her but after we got married the situation got worse. He began to be depressed all the time until I asked him if he wanted to go back to Jamaica. He said yes because he misses his kids. I knew that this was not the entire truth, but I granted him his wish. Before he left, I had already purchased my ticket to come to Jamaica but was undecided about coming because of all the things that had happened.
WONDERFUL TIME
Well, I did go to Jamaica and I did not see or hear from my husband. To my surprise, I saw a friend whom I have known for 5 years. He did everything in his power to make me feel the way I needed to feel. I had a wonderful time with him. He has called me everyday since I left Jamaica and I would very much like to see him again.
Am I wrong for feeling this way?
M. D., USA
Dear M. D.,
Your husband and you don't have a good relationship and there is a break down in communication. He returned to Jamaica and you did not know where he was. He probably wasn't aware that you were in Jamaica. When a couple communicates well, they know where to find each other. Evidently, your husband didn't contact you after returning to Jamaica. You've got a bad marriage.
NOT EVERYTHING THAT GLITTERS IS GOLD
Concerning the old friend you met in Jamaica and the wonderful time you had together, I think you are trying to say that you fell in love with him and you would seriously consider divorcing your husband to be with this man. Old people say that 'not everything that glitters is gold.' A man can woo a woman and enjoys himself with her. After all she is on vacation and will soon leave, but it is a different matter when he has to live with her under the same roof. They get to know each other better and often can't stand each other. Perhaps, that is what happened with your husband and you. And if you fool around, it may happen to this man and you.
Therefore, I urge you to be very careful what you do.
Pastor
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