DEAR PASTOR,
I am a reader of your column and I have a problem of my own. This is my first time writing. My problem is that I have fallen in love with a man who belongs to someone else. He is bound to get married but it's like this: He is going away and I think I will never see him again. He always tells me that if I never see him again I should take care of myself and hold my head up because I'm just 17 and he is 23 years old. He said he is going to call me sometimes but by then he'll be a married man because his girlfriend is in America.
Pastor, I'm telling you the truth, when he is ready to leave, I don't think I will be able to let him go. I wish him all the best but want him to always remember me even when he is married. I love him very much because he always makes me happy and he's always there even if my family and friends aren't there. I thank him very much for that comfort that he's leaving me with, even though he is leaving me with a lot of hurt.
I just want him to always remember that I'm here for him and I hope he never dumps the feelings that he had for me. He asked me if I love him and I wouldn't answer. I asked him why he asked me that question and he said "It's nothing." He said the feelings he has for me are getting stronger.
All I want him to do is to remember me even when he is married. I love him.
Please tell me what to do.
L. H., Westmoreland, Jamaica
Dear L. H.,
You are only 17 years old, so, perhaps this man is the first guy you have had in your life. The love for him is strong. I congratulate this guy for telling you that he is planning to get married to another woman. He didn't have to say that. He could have fooled you by promising to return to Jamaica and marry you, but he didn't.
Pastor
You will always remember him, but remember he belongs to someone else. It will take you a while but you will get over him. Try your best to get a good education. That is more important right now in your life than a man.
Pastor
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