DEAR PASTOR,
I am married for 14 years. During that time, I was separated from my husband for seven years because he was unfaithful to me. We restarted our relationship after I got pregnant with my fourth child for him. My baby is now nine months old. Even now that we are together, I feel as if we are strangers. I sleep upstairs and he sleeps in the basement. He told me that he loves me, but I can't feel it. I am 40 years-old and he is 43.
I never cheated on him during the seven years we were apart and I am being honest. During the problems we were having, I chose Jesus Christ as my Saviour. Jesus really helped me during my struggles. When I cried and called upon Him I felt much better. I have four boys.
What do you think I should do with this marriage that does not have any communication? I want to remain a faithful wife as God wants me to do. Do you think this marriage can work?
A. H., Ontario, Canada
Dear A. H.,
During the time you were separated from your husband, both of you should have sought professional help. You should have gone through a series of counselling sessions. The key to a happy relationship which is communication is surely not there. If this marriage is to be saved, both of you have to agree to go for counselling.
You resent him because of his unfaithfulness, but I am glad that you are back with him. You love this man. He loves you too. Why can't both of you put away pride and sleep with each other. Pastor
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