DEAR PASTOR,
I am a frequent reader of your column and at times have been amazed at some of the letters that you respond to. It is now my turn to relate a problem that I am having with the woman that I am seeing.
It all started when she confessed a lie to me that she was studying at the library when in fact she was not because the library at school was closed on the public holiday.
The public libraries were also closed, so there was no chance of me getting them all mixed up. She came home at 11 pm this particular night and insisted that she was at the library studying when in fact she was not.The question is: she said she won't lie to me anymore, but at this point, I don't know what to believe when she tells me things. What is it that I need to do to get over this hurdle? Your opinion will be well respected.
L. M., Connecticut, USA
Dear L. M.,
It may take many years to rebuild trust in this woman. Telling you that she would not lie is no guarantee that indeed she wouldn't. People who lie, show a weakness of character. It was not enough for her to say that she will never lie again. She needs to tell you why she lied.
I think I understand why you are concerned. You believe that this woman was hiding something.
Perhaps you feel that she went with another man. Whatever the reason may be, there is always a place for forgiveness. Why not give her a second chance? If she is foolish enough to mess up her second chance, you may have to consider walking away from her.
Pastor
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