I am stuck in a relationship with a man who is 15 years my senior. He has five children and I don't have any. We argue a lot about everything. This is a true love-hate relationship! The problem for me is that I am now in a comfort zone and I don't have the funds to leave him or have anywhere to stay since he is the only person I can count on in the States.
I am truly confused. We have the potential of being a very good couple if we could stop arguing long enough. I don't have a plan B to fall back on if I leave him and I might never find another mate that I may be comfortable with.
Help me!!
C., New York, U.S.A.
Dear C.,
I wonder if this man is married. You didn't say what is causing the arguments between both of you. If this man is single and you believe that there is a future with him, then both of you should go for counselling. Nothing is wrong with a man and a woman having an argument if they respect each other's opinion. What is wrong is if they begin to curse each other and become verbally abusive to each other. But couples can disagree from time to time and learn from each other in the process.
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