Dear Pastor,
I am a Christian living in America. God has been good to me. I am married and I have two lovely girls. I am 43 years of age and I find that I have such a strong sex drive. I just want to have it so often, much more than my wife can handle. I have even been outside my marriage, and I am wondering if this is a mid-life crisis.
I pray and commit it to the Lord. I know extramarital sex is adultery and it is wrong. I find it hard to gird the loins of my mind and even keep the thoughts from being impure. Help me, please.
D.B., New Jersey, USA
Dear D.B.,
It is not unusual for men to go through different phases in their sexual life. Some do feel for more sex as they become older. Uninformed women feel that their men should be less active sexually as they grow older.
But as one sex therapist puts it "an older man may find that he is more easily aroused and can maintain his erection better if his partner is willing to perform 'fleet' on him or to apply manual stimulation, strokes and caresses to his penis and testicles."
What I am trying to say is that now you feel for more sex and your wife is not always in the mood for sexual intercourse, there are things that she can do to make you totally satisfied in bed.
I wish I could tell you certain methods, but I am so conscious that people of all age groups read this column and are not yet mature enough to read certain sexual advice.
Pastor
It is never good to have extramarital affairs, so a man should be open with his wife and to tell her what he is feeling and to ask her to help him meet his sexual urges and desires.
Pastor
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