Dear Pastor,
I migrated to the United States three years ago. I had my boyfriend in Jamaica and we still kept in touch. He had a son before we met and when we started dating he was about letting go his baby mother. A year after living in the States, I went back to Jamaica and we got married. The communication and everything is excellent, but at times I just do not feel contented. It is as though I feel as if he is still messing around with his baby mother. I know it is important to see his son and I am o.k. with that.
I have no proof of anything, because I am not there, but "hear sey" comes to me sometimes. He proves to me he loves me in many ways. Even though I am not there, he shows me he cares. He calls me everyday. I visit him whenever I get the chance. I trust him, but for some reason, I just can't feel calm that he is not cheating. I do not know if it is my mind or what people tell me sometimes or what. He will tell me people just don't want us to be happy and I should ignore them.
We won't be apart forever, but why can't I have 100 per cent trust?
E. W., USA
Dear E. W.,
If you listen to what people say, you would never be happy. You have no proof that this man is having a sexual relationship with his child's mother. Don't harass him or accuse him. Time will tell whether or not he is doing so. Work on getting him to live with you in the United States of America. If you did not trust him, you should not have married him.
Pastor
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