Dear Pastor,
Please tell me how I can recover what is left of a wasted life. I have always obeyed my mother and took the right path towards my future. I am a college graduate with talents, but it seems as if my talents are going to waste. My problem started when I met this uneducated creature who is now my child's father. I have been in this misery for the last 8 years. I always feel sorry for him and take him back, because he seems to have no one but me. When I met this man, he was illiterate and I stayed with him to see if I could better his life by enrolling him into a school and prepare him for a job.
He doesn't have any ambition. All he wants to do is go to the clubs and dress up to impress girls. He doesn't want to improve his quality of life. I left him on 4 occasions and he always finds a way back in my house to make my life miserable. He is so ignorant. We cannot have a simple conversation without us fighting. I feel as though he is taking more than advantage of me, especially by moving his child from a previous relationship into my house.
I am the sole provider for my child. He treats my child as if he is not his child and treats his other child as if he is God's gift to the world. I tried coping with all this madness under my roof that I pay all the bills for but, any day now I feel like I am going to go crazy. I cared for this man so much that I usually forget about myself. I lost all the self-esteem I had. I am a working fool because I cannot depend on him for my son to survive.
Please give me your fatherly advice. I am tired of crying.
A. R., Philadelphia, USA
Dear A. R.,
You are not married to this man. You are paying all the bills. You don't love him anymore. He is really taking you as a fool. Go see a lawyer and he/she would advice you how to get this man out of your house. Of course you cannot make any move until you are absolutely sure you want to end the relationship with him. This is all I have to say.
Pastor
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