Dear Pastor,

I have a problem at my work place. My co-worker's wife died about six years ago. We were all friends. I am married and my husband is 69 and I'm 42. My co-worker and I have become lovers. He is 46. We do have sex often, but he does not give me money often, so I cut down on it.

So everything is a problem now. I love him and I tried hard to break up with him, but it is hard working with him. I don't know what to do.

V.C., New York, USA

Dear V.C.,

What you are trying to say is if you were receiving more money from this man, you would have sex with him 24/7 and leave your husband in the cold.

What would happen if your husband should find out that you are having an affair with your co-worker? Have you considered that?

You do not have to have sex with your co-worker if you don't want to. You like him, but you don't have to go all the way with him. And if you find it difficult to resist him because both of you are working at the same place, get another job.

Before I go, I wonder if another reason you are having sex with this man is because you are dissatisfied with your husband's sexual performance. If that is a problem and you want more, you should tell your husband.

He is only 69 years old; he is not over the hill. Money is definitely a big reason why you go to your co-worker. Are you not getting enough money from your husband? Learn to say no to your co-worker.

Pastor