Dear Pastor

Keep up the good work. I am in love with a 42-year-old man. He works very hard. Most of the time when I want to see him he is out working. I have often told him to slow down but he loves his job so much, he will not listen. He can hardly find time for me. Is he being truthful about his work? I am not sure I want to give this man all the love I have to give. I am scared of getting hurt.

N. M., Jamaica

Dear N. M.,

No man can be too busy to spend time with his girlfriend. Any man who has a girlfriend, makes time to see her and any woman who has a boyfriend makes time to see him, that is how it goes. So, what I am trying to tell you is that this guy is giving a poor excuse for not seeing you, and you ought not to believe him. Oh, yes, he may be very busy indeed, but if he truly loves you, he will make time for you. Do not believe his lies.

Pastor