Dear Pastor,

I am a 22-year-old female. I have been involved with a married man for six years now. It is wonderful being with him even though I know it is wrong. It is something that I have prayed about. I see this man everyday. He loves his wife very much. I know that. I do not want him to leave her and that was never an issue on our part, ever. He takes care of me and I do likewise. I am a hard-working young girl who has excelled over the years. I fell in love with this man while going to school.

There are times when I sit and pray that the relationship will just end, but as soon as I finish praying, he rings my phone. He is jealous of me, but he understands that I don't want to be running around. Maybe that is the reason why. He is a darling. I tell him daily that I wish he were a twin. He treats a woman well, but I am the independent type. Pastor, I see only death tearing us apart. That is the type of relationship that we have.

His wife has an idea that we are together, but I think she is glad that I am the only one. When she met and married him, he was a man who ran around. A 'schooler' changed him, no questions asked. He is forty-two years old and still a gentleman. He loves his two children and they love me too. The relationship gets better everyday.

Pray for me.

M.F., St. Catherine, Jamaica

Dear M.F.,

You are aware that this man is not planning to leave his wife and marry you. Wouldn't you like to have a man who is totally free with whom you can have a family? I am sure you did not write to me because you want me to remind you that this relationship is not going anywhere. You swear that you are not going to break up with him.

What can I say? You asked for prayer and that is exactly what I will do. I will not only pray for you but I will also pray for the man and his wife and children. I will pray that God may open his eyes so that he may see that danger is before him and that he needs to find refuge in Jesus.

Pastor