Dear Pastor,

I am a Jamaican who now lives in the United States. I am a high school student. I have a boyfriend who goes to a different school. There is this other boy at my school who has a girlfriend at school and he wants to have sex with me. I want to, but if I do, I don't think I could live with myself because I know his girlfriend and I would be cheating on my boyfriend.

Can you help me, please? I don't know what to do!

S. S., Boston, U.S.A..

Dear S.S.,

Tell this young man that you do not wish to have sex with him. Tell him if he continues to approach you for sex, you will tell his girlfriend. I must hasten to point out to you, that if you were to tell his girlfriend, he is likely to say that you are lying on him and that you were the one who offered yourself to him.

She may believe him because she is in love with him and he does not believe that he would cheat on her.

Pastor

Sometimes when people are in love they become blind and it takes a long time for them to regain their sight.

Please do not make yourself cheap by having sex with this young man.

Pastor