Dear Pastor,

I am a woman who is living a double life and I want to stop now, but I don't know how to. About six years ago, I met a man who I had fallen in love with and wanted to spend the rest of my life. I followed a friend's advice and went to an obeah man. Now, I am sorry I did that because I am tired of him.

About two years now I met another man and we have been dating since. He is an older man and we used to spend a lot of time together when my boyfriend was working. This man is my boyfriend's best friend. At one point he got suspicious of us but I told him nothing was going on. Now, I want to end the relationship with my boyfriend and be with his best friend but he won't leave because of what I did at the obeah man.

Please tell me what to do. I would like to spend the rest of my life with his best friend. He is kind and very respectful and he loves my 12-year-old son.

C.G., Portland, Jamaica

Dear C.G.,

I hope this man will see the light and leave you. Right now his eyes are blind. He suspected that you were cheating with his best friend but you convinced him that he was wrong. The poor man doesn't know that you are untrustworthy and that you are a liar.

I am not going to comment on the foolishness you talked about tying this man to you.

You should not have become intimate with your boyfriend's best friend and his best friend is not a good man because he should have never become intimate with you. Both of you should be ashamed of yourselves. Friendship doesn't mean anything to this young man. Some young man seem to find great joy in having sex with their friends' women, and at the same time, they go out drinking and having fun with these friends. Women should not do things that would embarrass their men. Often we hear about people being killed as a result of love triangle.

Some men do crazy things when they realise that their women have deceived them. I hope that your man will allow you to walk away with out getting himself into trouble. I suggest that you tell him that you have been unfaithful to him and you wish to go out openly with his best friend

Pastor