Dear Pastor,

I'm in love with my child's father, but while I was 2 months pregnant, he told me that he was married. A few months after my child was born, one of his parents wanted to see the baby and said that my child looks just like him. He also has another child with his so-called wife. The reason why I say this is because he told his parents that they are not married. He continues to tell me things about his child's mother, but she knows nothing about me. The only thing that he has told her is that we have a child together. I really do love this guy, but he doesn't take care of our child.

I want to know if it is ok to let my child grow up around another man, because I'm a single mother trying to raise my child on my own. Please help me find my inner-self Pastor. I don't know where in Florida he is living. I need some help.

L.R., Bronx,

New York

Dear L.R.,

You don't know much about this man. But one thing that is evident, is that he is not speaking the truth. How can you have a child for a man and you don't know where he lives? Any man who is always telling another woman negative things about his wife while they are still living together, should not be trusted. My gut feeling is that this man is fooling you.

You may not like the idea of your child having a stepfather but that is likely to happen, unless you decide to remain single. Protect yourself from this man. You love him so much that you are likely to allow him to have sex with you whenever he comes to visit you. He may impregnate you again. Right now, you are supporting your child without his help. He should be compelled to give you child support through the court. Do you know where he is working? Don't allow this thing that is called love to blind your eyes. Go to a lawyer and ask him to help you get support for the child.

Pastor