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Dear Pastor,

I hope you are fine. I am going through some serious problems. I usually lived in the United States but due to circumstances I'm back here in Jamaica. I wasn't deported. I've been here for almost three years. Ever since I got back my life turned upside down. Since my son's mother and I split I don't feel the same. I love my son's mother up to this day. When I came to America I was with my child's mother until I met another girl two to three months after I came. We had sex but then she became pregnant. I told the girl that the baby wasn't mine. When my child's mother heard of the pregnancy, she grew angry and left. I miss her.

Pastor, I know myself too well and I know that I wouldn't get that girl pregnant due to the relationship I had going with my child's mother. When my child's mother got pregnant I felt different but when this other girl said that she was pregnant I didn't feel any different. This girl keeps pressuring me. She knows I'm not working but I help where I can. At times she wants to leave the baby with me and she knows that it is hard because I have a son already and I have been trying to make ends meet.

I love my son's mother but she doesn't trust me anymore. I would like to build back that trust. I do not know what to do with the other girl. I really don't think that baby is mine and she is just forcing the baby on me. It's expensive to do a blood test. I really would like to talk to you.

J. P., Kingston, Jamaica

Dear J. P.,

Get yourself a job and pay for the paternity test. The girl said that you are the father of the child. If you don't believe her, prove her wrong. Stop the foolish talking about how you felt when your son's mother was pregnant and how you did not feel the same way when the other girl was pregnant, and how you are being pressured by her. You are speaking as an immature person. When you were having sex with this girl, you didn't use a condom, so you could very well be the father. Again I say, prove the mother wrong.

Concerning your son's mother, she may never want you back in your life. I am sure she is a hard-working woman. She expected you to be true to her and work hard and build a life together but you threw the opportunity away. I hope you learn from your mistake.

Pastor