Dear Pastor,

I just wanted to say congratulations on the terrific job you have been doing. I've been an avid reader of your column for a number of years and I really enjoy it a lot. I am a teacher by profession who is currently working outside of Jamaica. I have a five-year-old son.

Pregnancies

His father and I have been together for 10 years. We had some problems because he got two women back home pregnant. I tried working things out with him but realised it was no use. I took every chance I got and visited him. At one time I sent him a ticket and he visited me. I did everything I knew how to make things work, but he just was not trustworthy. He loves women.

I got saved a year ago and I realised then that he was still having an affair with the mother of one of his kids.

Denial

He denied it for the entire summer I was there. I prayed about it and I returned to the United States of America to work in August. I visited him in April of last year and you can imagine my surprise and disappointment that he was living with her. I was very hurt but I realised that God had been showing me for sometime that he wasn't for me. I really wish the best for them both and hope he'll treat her better than he did me after 10 years. Now my son has not heard from him and I get no financial support whatsoever but I try my best. God will take care of us.

I just want all the ladies out there who feel abandoned by their children's fathers or husbands to look up, and have faith in God. He will take care of them. Now, I actually think the guy did me a favour. It hurts when my son asks me why his father doesn't check for him, but I try to give him all the love in the world. We will make it.

Have a good day, keep up the good work and God will continue to bless you.

J. F., Clarendon

Dear J. F.,

I'm sorry to hear that your son's father has not been supporting him and that he has not treated you well. However, I am pleased that you have become a Christian and that the Lord is blessing you. You have a good attitude towards life. I trust that your son will do well in school, and that when he grows up, he will make a good contribution to society.

Thanks for your words of encouragement. May God continue to bless you.

Pastor