Dear Pastor,

I am a 25-year-old woman with a lot of problems. I am in a very bad relationship and because of that I have been fornicating frequently. I have three other men and I am pregnant but I don't know which one is the father. I like all of them but I would like my child's father to be the one for he has lots of money. I know he will take good care of me and the baby. One of my boyfriends is too mean and he is not even good in bed, and I am a lady with a very strong sex drive.

Please forgive me, pastor, but I can't help it. I was molested by my dad when I was 10 years old and from that day have been like this. I am a good person inside. I just need a bit off help. My mom turned her back on me when I told her about my dad. I didn't even finish school. Sometimes I feel like killing myself. I am a shamed of what I will become. I try using dildos but that can't help me. Please pray for me.

C., Kingston, Jamaica

Dear C.,

I wonder if your father is still walking the streets. He is a beast and your mother should be ashamed of herself. She shouldn't have turned her back on you. She should have helped you and she should have done everything to make you feel that she loved you and cared for you. I'm touched by your letter and pray that God will deliver you from the state in which you have found yourself.

Finding happiness

You are trying to find happiness. You want to be loved, so you have many lovers. You are equating sex and love to be the same. You are going from man to man and you are getting hurt. Now that you are pregnant you do not even know who the father is. The one you would wish to be the father might not be. But, in these days it is not difficult to find out who is the biological father. All three men cannot be. The birth of the child and the paternity test will determine that.

Yes, I will be praying for you. You will hear from me very soon.

Pastor