Dear Pastor,

I am a 19-year-old girl in love with a 39-year-old man who has four children and a baby abroad. He is a bad man. He gives a lot of problems and whenever he needs sex he calls me on the phone to come and see him.

Please tell me what you think about what I am doing with my life.

T. W., St. Andrew, Jamaica

Dear T. W.,

I won't be surprised if in your next letter to me, you inform me that you got pregnant by this man. I am sure you realise by now that this man is only using you and that it is likely that he is planning to marry the woman who is the mother of his children. Right now, you are like a "spare tyre". Whenever you are needed, you are used. I'm sure you understand what I mean. He calls you to his house whenever he wants sex.

Now, listen, if you want more out of life, you should end the relationship with this man. You said that he is a bad man. Why allow this bad man to make a fool out of you? You are 19 years old. If you are out of school, try and further your education. If you are in school, try your best to excel. People make mistakes, so I want you to look at this love affair as a big mistake.

Pastor