Dear Pastor,

I have been seeing a man for three years. He is 22 years my senior. He has two children between the age of 20 and 25. He has also been married twice.

He is with me most of the time, but I feel that he only wants to 'play house'. What do you think I should do?

R.G., Ohio, U.S.A.

Dear R.G.,

Any woman who is with a man who is by far her senior has reasons for doing so. Often it is security, money, or love. However, very few do so because of love. I do not mean to imply that young women do not marry older men because they love them, many do. But security and money are the number one and two reasons. So, I ask you the question, if you know that this man is playing house, why have you stayed with him? I suspect that this man is giving you lots of money and you are watching what he has and hope to inherit much of it.

Not all men are fools. They know when women are with them for what they have and they play the game until the women are frustrated and end the relationship. It is very easy for a man to move on to another woman. That is all I have to say to you. May your conscience speak to you. Examine your motive. Why are you hanging on?

Pastor