Dear Pastor,

I am a 19-year-old young lady and I am having problems concentrating due to certain things affecting my life. I am stressed and fed up of everything. I think men are liars and cheaters, but they consider themselves to be romantic. All they want to do is oral sex.

What is funny is that they always deny performing oral sex and say that they would never do it, but, behind closed doors it's a different story.

Pastor, the big thing about it is that they are all big 'shottas' and 'cuties'. Please, tell me your view.

K. B., St. Elizabeth, Jamaica

Dear K.B.,

I gather that you are talking from experience. So now that you know that all the guys that you have met are only interested in using you, you should be very careful about how you go about choosing a good man. Yes, you are quite correct, some men lie about not doing oral sex but their women say that they are doing it. On the other hand, some girls say that oral sex is the first thing some guys offer to do with them.

The line that the guys use to convince the girls to do oral sex is, "Girl, you are the first one I am doing it with; you are so special". Don't be fooled. Remember, one can get HIV/AIDS by engaging in oral sex.

Pastor