Dear Pastor,

I am a mother of two and I am suffering inside. Whenever I see or hear of my children's father and his new woman I get anxiety attacks and massive headaches. I can't stand the fact that I have such a hate for his new woman. She is a wicked woman. She demands all of my ex's money and she threatens him not to come and look for our children or give me money.

She is envious of me because she is crazy and she feels that he will want me back. She has called my phone repeatedly and she is always trying to compare herself to me. I try my best to avoid her but she thinks she has something over me because she has him and he left me. But he is no good. He beats her up and he has kids with her and more outside of their relationship. I believe what is meant to be will be. It's meant for me to have these children but not for both of us to be together. I don't want to be with him because he has no future. However, I just feel sick to my belly because of my situation.

I want a husband

I want to get married but I haven't found anyone yet. I am single and I am a very attractive woman. Maybe it's just not the right time for me. Sometimes I have to wonder if I want to be with my children's father but I know that it is not what I want. I just want happiness. Please help me.

T. M., New York, USA

Dear T. M.,

I know your problem. You are suffering from jealousy. It is choking you to death. You claim that this man is not a good man and you don't want him. You speak as if you believe you are better than the girl, so the man has made a wrong choice by leaving you and going to live with her. You claim that she is a gold-digger and she is preventing you from receiving money from your children's father.

My dear sister, no woman can prevent a man from supporting his children if he wants to do so. If a man loves his children, he will support them regardless what his wife or sweetheart says. Your children's father may be worthless and good for nothing and perhaps that is the reason why he is not supporting his children. He is irresponsible and an irresponsible man is not a good father.

Why quarrel with the woman with whom he is living? She needs to know her place. If this man will not support his children, take him to court and he will be forced to pay for everything. Sometimes that's the only alternative that women have. Don't go toe-to-toe with this woman in foolish arguments. Do what is right so that you won't suffer from stress.

Pastor