Dear Pastor,

My husband is supposed to be a Christian, but I just cannot trust him. He constantly tells lies and looks in my eyes to say it is the truth and something always happens that exposes him. He takes communion at church as if all is well. I want to trust him, but I know deep down he is lying. He keeps getting phone calls from a certain girl who seems to be bossing him around and now he cannot get out of it. I confronted him on several occasions but he denies it (as you know men always do). I really feel like killing him. To be honest, if killing wasn't a crime, I would have killed him a long time ago. I hate a liar. Each time I look at him, I hate him more and more.

I need some advice.

B.B., Westmoreland, Jamaica

Dear B. B.,

Are you saying that the love you had for your husband has turned into hate? It is time, therefore, that both of you seek the help of a family counsellor? You believe that your husband is having an affair because he is very close to a particular girl. I hope you are not accusing him of something of which he is not guilty. The love for your husband should grow stronger and stronger. Therefore, if you resent him and you are still living with him, it is time for both of you to seek pro-fessional help.

Pastor