Dear Pastor,

I am having a problem. I love to look at men's pants front. My cousin used to have sex with me and now it is like hell trying to change. I am a Christian now. Before changing my life, I used to have sex with him often. I feel down and depressed. My mother and my stepfather curse me every day.

Pastor, what must I do? My hormones tend to be high.

R. D., St. Andrew, Jamaica

Dear R. D.,

When I first read your letter, I thought you were a girl, but after seeing something in your letter which I have deleted, I realised you were a man. And what you are really trying to say is that you were a practising homosexual. But since you have become a Christian, you believe that you have changed.

The temptation to go with men is alive and well in your life. You are still admiring men. The struggle in your life is real. That desire to be with your own sex is still with you. Perhaps you may overcome the desire you feel for men, but it may take lots of help from persons who are trained in dealing with persons who are of that lifestyle.

What I am trying to say is that you should do your best to seek professional help. I suggest that you make an appointment to see a Christian psychologist. You should not trust yourself to be with the cousin with whom you have had sexual encounters. I repeat, seek help.

Pastor