Dear Pastor,

I sometimes agree and other times disagree with your recommendations, but overall you are doing a great job.

I am in a quandry. I am married to a man for over 15 years. I am not in love with him, but I am hanging on for the time being. We have three kids so I promised to stay until they have grown. I am in my early '40s and want more kids, but he does not want any more. I am in a position to take care of them. I really don't love this person. We have gone through some hard times and now we are experiencing good times. So I wouldn't want it to look as though that is the reason I want to leave. Making love to this person is really hard. I am not seeing anybody else.

What am I to do?

P.G., Florida, USA

Dear P. G.,

Why would you want to have more children with a man you do not love? Making love with him is tedious. You want to leave him, but you are waiting for your children to grow up.

Why do you want to tie yourself down with more children? I don't understand.

I am afraid that you have not stated your real motive. Whatever you may have in mind for wanting more children, your husband is aware of it and he will not allow himself to get you pregnant. He is a smart man.

Pastor