Dear Pastor,

I am a 19-year-old young man who is the father of a child, but not with my present girlfriend with whom I am with for six years. My girlfriend is always telling me that she wants our six years relationship to end everytime we have an argument, but at the end of the argument, she says she does not, mean it. We love each other a lot and we spend a lot of time together. Our relatives get along great.

What should I do when she tells me that it's over in a meaningful way?

D. R., St. Andrew, Jamaica

Dear D. R.,

People say things they don't mean all the time. I hope that you would behave yourself and not impregnate her. And I also hope that you are supporting your child. If you have been friendly with this young lady for six years, you haven't been faithful to her because you fathered a child with another girl during the relationship with her. Perhaps that is one of the reasons why your girlfriend is constantly telling you that she is going to leave you. She knows that you cannot be trusted.

When a guy does something wrong, he has to humble himself and learn to rebuild trust. And it takes years for trust to be rebuilt. It does not happen overnight.

Pastor