Dear Pastor,

I am a young woman who is in need of some advice. I am 22 years old and I am stuck between two men. I have been living in Florida for about a year. I am supposed to get married to the man I love dearly in Jamaica, but when I moved to Florida, I met another man. The guy in Florida is a good man, but he has three children and lives with his children's mother. He says that he is no longer with her, but that is hard to believe because he is living with her. I am trying to leave him, but I don't know how to.

I am getting to like him a lot. We used to work together and we became friends. From there, it became an intimate relationship. When I'm with him, I'm so happy, but I know the man in Jamaica is for me. I know it's not right to be with the guy in Florida, so I'm trying to leave him. No matter what I try, I keep on running back to him because I am so lonely.

Please, pray for me and advise me, pastor.

N.B., Florida, U.S.A.

Dear N.B.,

In the first place, you should know that this man is only fooling you when he tells you that he is not getting along with his children's mother. He has to tell you something so that is the easiest thing for him to say. You are the one pursuing him because you claim that you are lonely.

Remain faithful

I wonder what you would say if you were to be told that your boyfriend in Jamaica has a girlfriend and that he is going to bed with her because he is so very lonely. Would you like that? I doubt you would. Therefore, whenever you are tempted to call this man, consider that your boyfriend in Jamaica trusts you and that he expects you to remain faithful to him.

Do not fool your boyfriend in Jamaica. Don't let him make preparations to marry you while you are going to bed with another man in America. A person does what he/she wants to do, and if you do not want this man who is living in America in your life, the relationship between both of you can come to an end. It's up to you.

Pastor