Dear Pastor,

I moved to the United States of America a couple of years ago and I had a boyfriend in Jamaica. Before I left Jamaica we were cool, meaning we had a great relationship, but now it's hard not having him around and I am thinking that he has a new girlfriend now. I am at a stage where I want to move on and tell him it's over, but I am afraid that it will break his heart that is the last thing I want to do.

Yes, he calls me often, but I think it's time for me to move on because I think he has a girlfriend. He said he does not have one but I find it hard to believe because once he knew that a girl want to fight me for him and he did not tell me. This girl might have killed me because I did not know that she was out to fight me. Luckily, I knew how to handle a problem so I walked off and did not fight her, because it would be stupid fighting over a guy. It was from there that I never trusted him.

He knows that I do not trust him, so he tries to make up for it. It is hard for me to have a boyfriend who is far away and I want to end the relationship.

Career first

No, pastor, I do not have a boyfriend, but I think a girl like me should not have any boyfriends now because I am considering what I want to be in life. I am 19 years old and I think a career is more important than a boyfriend.

I know that he loves me too much and I do not want to hurt him. I know that this might sound weird but I am crazy in love with him too.

Sometimes I think I am stupid to love a guy so much. He is my first boyfriend and I think that's why I am so scared to break up with him. I know if I do break up with him, I will regret it.

Pastor, please, tell me what is wrong? Why do I love this guy so much and yet I think otherwise. I do not want to let him go, but I think about him too much and the only way not to think about him is to break up with him.

Although we are the same age we both share something and that thing is we both love each other too much. I am so confused. Please, help me.

S., USA

Dear S.,

If you know that you are so much in love with this guy and he is so very much in love with you and you are not involved with anybody abroad, let the relationship roll.

Time will indeed tell whether he is sexually involved with another woman in Jamaica. He is far away.

Pastor

Let the love that you have for him remain in your heart. If it does not go to your head, you will survive.

You have a good outlook on life. You want to get an education. Work hard and you will accomplish your goals.

Pastor