Dear Pastor,

I am a Jamaican living in America for the last 23 years. I am a well-educated professional who has travelled the world and enjoyed most of its pleasures, including its women. I have dated women from every culture and I have not been able to fall in love as an adult. I have been in love two times before I was 21.

I now find myself in a marriage where I don't love my wife. I got married to her because I didn't want to grow old alone. I tell her that I love her, but she knows that it's not true. Before I got married, women fell in love with me very easily. I don't cheat on my wife, but I am sure that if I could ever fall in love again, I would. I just want to be reassured that I am still capable of loving and that it would be OK to move on if true love finds me later in life.

L.M., Virginia, U.S.A.

Dear L.M.,

I suggest that you make an appointment to see a psycho-logist. You are very confused. You don't have a clue what love is. You are just confused and seeking for other women. If you didn't believe that you were in love, you shouldn't have got married. So see a psychologist, if you want to sort out yourself.

Pastor