Dear Pastor,

I have been with a man for almost three years and he is also the father of my two-year-old son.

We were planning on getting married, but we got into an argument a few days ago and this man told me that he hopes that I fall on my face and when it happens he wants to be there. People argue all the time, but they don't wish bad things on the person who is taking care of them. He has a visa and the little work he had is now finished and he told me that I took him from Jamaica, told him to leave his work and he also sold his car.

Tell me, pastor, how can anyone tell you to leave what you have and you don't know what it is that you are going into? This man has issues and I told him he is wicked. He is an only child for his mother and his father is a well known policeman, so he is spoiled. He wants me to buy his plane ticket so he can leave, but I think I have been making his life too easy. He is going to find that air fare all by himself.

Pray for me.

N.M., New York, USA

Dear N. M.,

I hope that by now this man and you have resolved your differences. Sometimes when people are upset, they say the wrong thing. That is why one should try to control one's temper.

This young man should show appreciation and stop behaving like a kid.

Pastor