Dear Pastor,

I have been going through a problem for over a year now and I am asking for your fatherly advice. I have been with a man for over eight years and since I got pregnant, he has been acting differently. My son is almost two and since my son's birth, we haven't had sex. He is not showing me any love.

Should I move on with my life or should I wait to see what he is up to? I really love him and I don't know what to do.

S. B., Kingston, Jamaica

Dear S. B.,

This man is silently sending you a message. He is telling you that something is wrong either with you or him.

This message may be difficult to read, so, I suggest that you ask him what is going on.

It is unusual for a man to be living with a woman and they are not having problem and are not having sex. I am not implying that all relationships are sexual.

You may be surprised to know that some marriage couples for years do not have sex. Sometimes there is problem with the woman and sometimes there is a problem with the man.

That is why people have to talk. Somebody should take the initiative to touch. I know that both of you are not married, but you are living as husband and wife. So you are in common-law. Some people may say that if he is not having sex with you, he is having it with someone else.

Sometimes some men come under great conviction and feel that they will not have sex anymore until they are married. Wouldn't that be great in your case? So talk to this man and find out what is going on before you make any decision.

Pastor