Dear Pastor,

I'm a married woman who lives in the U.S.A. and my husband lives in Jamaica.

The problem is that when we first got married he cheated on me and produced a baby for which I forgave him. Three years later another woman is saying she is carrying his child.

Should I leave him or stay? I love this man dearly with all my heart, but I don't want to be his fool. My relatives are all telling me to leave him, but I cannot find the courage to do so because I love him. Don't get me wrong; he loves me, but is it worth it?

I would greatly appreciate your fatherly advice.

S. D., South Carolina, USA

Dear S. D.,

When your mind has totally turned from this man, you will leave him without the prompting of anyone. Right now you have to close your ears from the advice of relatives. Your husband doesn't have any self-control and he is not a man who uses common sense.

He is taking you for granted. He believes that you don't have the courage to leave him and he is very correct on that.

Perhaps one of these days you are going to hear that he has fathered a third child. But again, I say, let no one push you into making any decision one way or another.

When you are fed up with your husband's behaviour and cannot take anymore, you will walk away. And who can tell?

He may come to himself and stop running around and ask you to forgive him.

Pastor