Dear Pastor,

I am 21 and a few weeks ago I met an older man who is twice my age. Both of us are Jamaicans but we are not living in Jamaica. He is divorced and has children from that previous marriage. We are both Christians and god-fearing people.

He is kind, friendly and compassionate. I must say he is a gentleman. He is not looking anything from me. He just wants us to date for two years and then get married because both of us have strict Christian beliefs.

He does not believe in having sex before marriage and he said that this time around it is until death do us part.

I am attending college now and he wants to help me further my education. I never thought I would be dating an older man or even get married to one.

My girlfriend is telling me to think about kids and he will be much older or he will not live to see our children grow up.

Tell me, pastor, what is your take on this matter? I really like him a lot. Please keep up your good work and all the best.

T.M., New York., USA

Dear T.M.,

If you are in love with this man and this man is in love with you, go for it.

Pastor