Dear Pastor,

I need some advice for my problem. I met this woman in the 1970s and after two years of courtship we got married. She got involved with the Church and her attitude had changed. She told me that we are unequally yoked and I am not sanctified, whatever that means. After four years of marriage I came home one weekend, (as I am a travelling salesman, who travels around the country during the week) to find an empty house. She packed all her personal belongings and left the home without an explanation. I tried in vain to determine her whereabouts but I was unsuccessful. I got reports that she is involved with one of her church brothers, and had left the country to live abroad.

This happened over the period of ten years ago, and during this period I have heard nothing, and it seems that she had disappeared into thin air. Presently I have lost all contact with her family. I am getting older in age and need a companion to look after me.

How can I go about getting a divorce? Please advise me.

S.B, St. Andrew, Jamaica

Dear S.B,

In the first place your wife is talking nonsense when she raises the matter of being 'unequally yoked'. Both of you were married before she started going church. The Church could not expect her to leave you even though you are not a Christian. If the pastor informed her to leave you, the pastor would be wrong.

I could only suggest that you seek the help of a lawyer.

Pastor