Dear Pastor,

I am having an issue. I am a 20-year-old female and I have two guys in my life who love me. I was in a committed relationship with a guy for over a year. I never cheated on him and when I found out that he cheated, I was so hurt. I told myself that I was not going to love anyone again. So I made a pact with one of good my male friends, that when I am 25 we are going to get married because I didn't want to get hurt again, and we agreed. But I was still hurting because of my ex-boyfriend and I needed someone to get my mind off him. So I started dating a guy at work.

We went out for three months and had lots of fun. I think I am in love with him and I am very scared, because I think that he loves me and would want to settle down with me. But my best friend with whom I made the pact just told me that he loves me and would want us to settle down. I think I love the guy who I am seeing now, but I know that my best friend would be willing to marry me now. I know that he always loved me and I think I will love him.

Pastor, I don't know who to choose. Please advise me.

L.S., Hanover, Jamaica

Dear L.S.,

You need to go and see a family counsellor. He/she will help you sort out your problems. You are very confused and you have done some very silly things. Perhaps one can excuse you for making silly decisions as a young person. Men will tell you that they love you and don't mean it. It is very difficult for some men to tell the women with whom they are living that they love them, but they will tell other women that they meet that they love them because they want to go to bed with them.

Don't believe everything a man tells you. You cannot even be sure if any of these guys with whom you have been having relations means you any good. So go see a family counsellor.

Pastor