Dear Pastor,
I wish for your advice on a matter of a long-distance love. I want to know if I should stick it out or not. I live abroad and I am a single mother. I met a man almost three years ago. We have a challenge. He is not able to come to the States and it does not seem as if he would like to. I have tried everything to get him here, but I think that there is something holding him in Jamaica. I waste money to get him appointments at the embassy, but he never went. There is always a reason for him not to go.
There are so many other issues that are pressing, but this is the main one. He says he loves me, but I wonder if he really does. Pastor, I can't give up what I have here to come back home, and if we are going to be one we need to be under one roof. My whole life is at a standstill.
Pastor, what should I do?
D.B., Florida, USA
Dear D.B.,
Can't you see that this man is really not interested in living in America? Perhaps he is interested in getting some American dollars from you and whatever else you can give him. So why harass him about living in America?
You know that you are not prepared to come back to Jamaica so tell the man to go to hell. Tell him to go his way and you will go yours. Consider what you have given to him a big waste.
Pastor
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