The Jamaica Star :: Tell Me Pastor :: Is he playing with my head?

Dear Pastor,

I am having a little problem and I would like you to help me with it. My boyfriend and I have been seeing each other for the last four years. We were going on ok until he opened his business last summer. I am not saying everything was perfect then, but we weren't disagreeing the ways that we are now. I found out that he cheated on me about three times and he confessed to me and told me he was sorry. The problem is since the business began, we started arguing a lot and it frustrates him and frustrates me. I left a couple of times and he called me back.

We had an argument the other day and I told him it was over and he said it was fine, but he still wanted me to work with him. I agreed and we became friendly again. Arguments started again and this time he told me it was over. I ignored him and I went to work as usual and didn't pay him any mind.

After a week he sent me a text saying that he is going to migrate and he wants me to run the shop, but that was a lie. He wanted to get married and live abroad. He said Jamaica is too hard and he can't take the system and, moreover, he and I were not agreeing. I really do love him, but I am wondering if what he is saying is true, or if he is just playing with my head to see if I love him too. I know a man doesn't like his woman to nag him, but he gives me reasons to. He is a very confused person and he doesn't know what he wants. He is 28 and I am 22.

Pastor, he has done a lot for me. Do you think I should leave the business and move on with my life, or work for him and feel hurt day by day to know we aren't together anymore?

S.S., St Catherine, Jamaica

Dear S.S.,

I suggest that you try to get another job and that you go back to school. The relationship that you are having with this man is not going well and you need to get out of his way and carve out your own future. You are young and it is not advisable for you to hang on to this man and to be treated disrespectfully. You are always going to have problems with him because he is not truthful and he is a user. Leave him with his shop and move on.

Pastor