Dear Pastor,

I am always reading your column and you have been doing a great job. I have been battling with some love issues. I am now attending a university in the United States and I broke up with my boyfriend in Jamaica. The relationship went downhill and I really loved him. The other day I went to Jamaica and we saw each other and I did something that I shouldn't have done. During our relationship, he got into some trouble and I was helping him out financially, but due to all those problems, I think that played an integral role in the decline of our relationship.

Now that I am in the States, we don't speak. He doesn't call me and the emotions and feelings are killing me inside. I want to call him, but when I think about all the pain he put me through, I just don't bother to get in contact with him. I am talking to a new guy in the States, but everytime I see him it is like my old boyfriend keeps coming in my mind and it is hard for me to move on.

What do you suggest I do about this little situation?

S. S., New York, USA

Dear S. S.,

Perhaps you needed time for your heart to heal before getting into a new relationship. And it is not too late for you to tell this new guy that both of you can go on dates sometimes, but that you do not want to be intimate with him. In this way you will give yourself more time to see if there will be reconciliation with the guy in Jamaica or whether you should move on. Don't push the issue at all with either of these guys.

Pastor