Dear Pastor,

I love the advice you have been giving. Keep up the good work. I would like your help in my situation. I live in Canada and I have been on and off in a relationship with a man for three years. We are both in our 20s. I love him very much, but we fight constantly. You see, pastor, I am very jealous and I often go out of my way and search his clothes, phone or anything to prove that he is cheating. Of course, I have found out that he is cheating. He always comes up with an excuse and says he isn't and he gets mad at me for not trusting him. He says he wants to be with me and that he loves me.

What should I do, pastor? It is very hard to find a man who will be faithful in these last days. I have never loved any man as much as I love him. Sometimes I feel like becoming a lesbian or having sex with baby animals. How do I control this?

P., Toronto, Canada

Dear P.,

Firstly, I would like to encourage you to make an appointment to see a psychologist. You have the desire to have sex with animals? You need professional help. If you don't get professional help, you may carry out this desire. This desire is abnormal. And if untreated, you may actually commit the act whether you get married or remain single.

Now concerning your boyfriend and your searching his clothes to find out whether or not he is cheating. You should desist from doing so. You are not comfortable with yourself and you are not comfortable with your boyfriend. You are a very unhappy girl. You do not trust yourself and you do not trust your boyfriend. You have to be doing something to feel as if you are somebody. I repeat, go see a psychologist. One of thee days your boyfriend is going to walk away from you because you are not easy to live with.

Pastor