Dear Pastor,

I am a 22-year-old female. I read your publications all the times. I recently got a two-month visa to the United States of America to visit my mom, whom I haven't seen in six years. I thought this would be the happiest time of my life. Except my mom has problems with her sisters and wanted me to take her side. When I refused to take sides, she started cursing and saying I don't love her. I told her she was making me uncomfortable and she made an issue of that. Now she wants me to stay in America with the possibility of never going home again; and did I mention that's the position she found herself in.

Pastor, what do I do? I love my mother very much, but me living here makes her think otherwise. I am so confused. I was successful in the CXC exams and in my A' levels. I was accepted to a university in Jamaica, but my mom couldn't afford the fees and I did get a positive response from the Students' Loan Bureau.

S.M., New York, USA

Dear S.M.,

Unless you can change your status that would allow you to stay in America without fear, I would suggest that you return to Jamaica. If you return to Jamaica, you can apply to schools in America and apply for a student's visa from Jamaica.

I believe that your mother means well, but you should not overstay your time in America and create problems for yourself with immigration. Concerning the problems you are facing with your mother, don't take her on. When she is having disagreements with others, remain silent.

Pastor